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LOVING SUPPORT TO HELP YOU STOP DRINKING

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Have you..?

Been going around in circles trying to quit alcohol?

Have tried ‘everything’ to stop drinking but still feel that pull?

Been sober for a short while but have little or no confidence that it will stick in the long term?

Get frustrated and angry with yourself at your lack of progress?

Wish that you could wake up tomorrow and just know what you need to do to stop drinking?

Know you are beginning to negotiate with yourself about drinking again, but your heart knows you don’t want to?

Know that your drinking isn’t out of hand but it certainly isn’t making your life better? 

Yes? Read on….

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one to one coaching

During your time with me you will:

Identify the areas of your life that need the most work – it may not be alcohol!!! 

Get to the bottom of your self-sabotaging behaviour and come up with strategies to do better next time. 

Be inspired to make changes that will help you stop drinking alcohol and create the life you deserve. 

Be held accountable each week for the actions you agreed to undertake. 

Be listened to and supported with love, compassion and non-judgement.

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About me

Hello there, my name is Jules and I am a UK sober coach, meditator, journaler and passionately sober woman from Newcastle upon Tyne in the UK.

In 2012, after spending more than 20 years working in the IT industry, I sold everything I owned, reduced my whole life to the contents of a backpack and went travelling to ‘find myself’. 

After over 5 years of living and working in India, Sri Lanka, Taiwan and Spain, I discovered I was still the same overweight, miserable woman I had been when I left the UK – because I had continued to drink. 

In 2017 I gave up drinking alcohol after a 40 year love/hate relationship with it after realising that I had been journaling about my alcohol consumption, unconsciously, for months.

Twenty-one days after my last drink I discovered what happy people feel like and I knew I had to do everything I could to hold onto that feeling. 

Today, I live a totally different, light, happy life and over the years I have continued to make changes and work towards long-cherished goals and dreams. 

These days, alcohol is just another drink among many that I choose not to drink. I don’t fight it or think about it. 

The life I have created for myself is far too precious to let something as insignificant as alcohol ruin it all.

My mission is to help and support women who want to live life without alcohol. I can help you find the joy and freedom you truly deserve.

Jules Rutherford Founder of Sobersistas (2)
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testimonial

“If you’re feeling that life is a struggle or just not as optimal as it could be then I would without a doubt highly recommend taking part in coaching sessions with Jules Rutherford. It’s really worth regularly taking stock of how you’re feeling both physically and mentally.  Jules is kind and empathetic in nature and you can’t help but want to do well for her, just like a great teacher!

In the sessions you score each area of your life, check where changes can be planned and create actions to take steps in the right direction to improve each area. Jules opened up my eyes to the world of self-development and self-improvement without ever directly telling me what to do but through providing me with the tools, motivation and insight to immerse myself in new habits and life style changes.

Jules is an inspirational and enthusiastic coach who I trust implicitly. Most importantly she works for the love of people and also has a fantastic capacity to self coach which shines through in her sessions. When someone is constantly working to improve their own life and is willing to share that wisdom and passion with you then you must grab the opportunity with both hands!” R.T. 

IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO FIND OUT MORE ABOUT COACHING WITH ME AND WHAT’S INVOLVED AND WOULD LIKE A NO OBLIGATION, 30 MINUTE CHAT YOU CAN BOOK IN HERE.
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How it works

I have developed Sobersistas unique framework for working with you. 

SOBERSISTAS UNIQUE IOI FRAMEWORK

INSIDE – Starting on the inside of your head around your habitual thinking, we work on what triggers you, define personalised strategies that enable you to change your perspective about alcohol and any personal, practical strategies that you need to kick start your sober journey. 

OUTSIDE – Once you are comfortable with stage one we will move onto your outside world. We focus on crafting loving solutions to your relationships, work, and social life. This helps you to navigate drink bullies, fears around changes in your key relationships and how to love going to events sober, like holidays and social gatherings. 

INSIDE – As you make progress with feeling more and more confident about your way of staying sober, we then move back inside to your heart. Working on your dreams, goals and heartfelt desires for your future is a guaranteed way to achieve long-lasting sobriety. My aim is to guide you gently into creating a vision of a life that is perfect for you, thus helping you to live life where alcohol has no place in it.

IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO FIND OUT MORE ABOUT COACHING WITH ME AND WHAT’S INVOLVED AND WOULD LIKE A NO OBLIGATION, 30 MINUTE CHAT YOU CAN BOOK IN HERE.
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testimonial

“Jules is an amazing Coach – she just “gets” it. I’ve done a lot of self-development work over the years and have seen a couple of coaches, but somehow, I never managed to change and work towards my dreams and goals consistently.

Jules managed to get to the bottom of what was blocking me and now I’m finding everything so much easier and enjoyable. The coaching has made a massive difference to me.

Jules is such a lovely mixture of practical action and emotional breakthroughs, while looking after your spiritual side if you so wish. I highly recommend Jules as my Coach of choice. Thank you, Jules.” M.R.

IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO FIND OUT MORE ABOUT COACHING WITH ME AND WHAT’S INVOLVED AND WOULD LIKE A NO OBLIGATION, 30 MINUTE CHAT YOU CAN BOOK IN HERE.
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TESTIMONIAL

“Back in April this year, I started my one to one session’s with Jules. I was in a bad place and had lots going on.

Jules sent me the resources to use and we started our sessions. Instantly I started to claim back myself.

I had the seeds to plant and Jules was my watering can. With her help I ended up with a plan, mentally in a better place and starting my road to a new me.

I loved her calm manner and reassurance that I could do it if I put my mind to it.  I cannot thank Jules enough for all the help she gave me.

We are now in June and I’ve put the plan we made into action. I’m still walking towards my brighter future and loving it. The tensions I had carried when we first started our sessions melted away and I’m continuing on my journey to a sober me, more fulfilled and in a good place.

Jules is a wise woman and I shall always be very grateful to her.” K.D.

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during our time together

I feel I am able to cope with what life throws at me

My coaching style is based on love and compassion, however, that doesn’t mean you’ll get an easy time of it!!

I am not here to be your friend (although that would be lovely if you like!), I am here to make sure you are being honest, committing to things that you really can achieve and also to make sure you achieve them. 

My primary goal is to help you completely change your mind about alcohol and what it brings to your life.

I am ridiculously enthusiastic about sobriety so be prepared!

You will have access to me via Whatsapp during our time together and beyond – I will be there for you.

IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO FIND OUT MORE ABOUT COACHING WITH ME AND WHAT’S INVOLVED AND WOULD LIKE A NO OBLIGATION, 30 MINUTE CHAT YOU CAN BOOK IN HERE.
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testimonial

“I told Jules at the start of coaching I was a bit (a lot!) lost, I had been able to stop drinking but not maintain it and I was so disappointed with myself.

Through speaking with Jules I realised I wasn’t making the changes to have the fantastic sober life Jules so enthusiastically talks about.

With her support and guidance, including the recommendation of Wayne Dyer and Brene Brown books I am at last on track.

I’ve got a difficult relationship to deal with, but I now journal those thoughts and feelings. I feel I’m able to cope with what life throws at me. I’m learning to recognise my feelings and not just want to drown them in alcohol but actually face them and work out what’s going on in my head.

Thank you so much. I know I wouldn’t have reached my 10 weeks yesterday without this.” G.M.

IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO FIND OUT MORE ABOUT COACHING WITH ME AND WHAT’S INVOLVED AND WOULD LIKE A NO OBLIGATION, 30 MINUTE CHAT YOU CAN BOOK IN HERE.
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coaching is not…

sobriety coaching

A girlie chat with your best mate who never holds you accountable for your choices. 

Inflexible – We can decide on the best format for you. We will work on what you need to work on. 

Business or work coaching – however, I have 25 years of senior management and leadership experience so if this is your priority that’s fine. If you would like to talk to me separately about this feel free to drop me a message by CLICKING HERE.

IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO FIND OUT MORE ABOUT COACHING WITH ME AND WHAT’S INVOLVED AND WOULD LIKE A NO OBLIGATION, 30 MINUTE CHAT YOU CAN BOOK IN HERE.
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testimonial

“I’m one of those people that people go to for help, not the other way around. I’m a holistic therapist and I have spent the past 20 years trying to help people.

I’m rubbish accepting advice if I don’t think the person giving it knows what they are talking about. They might have the piece of paper, but do they have the life experience to back it up?

Everything was going just fine in my life, or so I thought, until I was accused of being a “narcissistic alcoholic” by my daughter.  I was told I only buy love and don’t give it – plus a whole lot worse.  My whole belief system and my self-belief was blown to smithereens.  I honestly believed that I was a good person, trying my best to make a difference and help people.

I was so shocked at what I was hearing, I decided that I never ever wanted anyone to have any ammunition against me to accuse me of being an alcoholic, which I knew I wasn’t, but I also knew the only way possible to do this was to give up alcohol completely.

I joined Sobersistas and was blown away by how down to earth and straight talking Jules is. I gave up drinking immediately.

I can honestly say, Jules definitely has the life experience and a fabulous down to earth manner.  It felt like I was talking things through with a really good mate.

By the end of our time together my relationships had improved – because I had set boundaries and stopped responding in the same way as I previously had, thanks to some great advice. What is it they say about if nothing changes, nothing changes?

I started practicing my guitar and finally committed to an NLP course that I had signed up to.

Jules didn’t help with just one thing – she helped me get my life to a way better place. I can recommend Jules without reservation, whatever area of your life you need help with.”  Angie T

IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO FIND OUT MORE ABOUT COACHING WITH ME AND WHAT’S INVOLVED AND WOULD LIKE A NO OBLIGATION, 30 MINUTE CHAT YOU CAN BOOK IN HERE.
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FAQs

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Still not ready? 

Try My 30 Day Sobriety Journal

Are you ready to focus on 30 days of sobriety? 

My 30 Day Sobriety Journal will give you 80+ pages to help you get ready to give up alcohol for 30 days.

 Explore your relationship with alcohol. 

Daily planner and 30 unique sobriety-based journal prompts. 

30 Day Tracker. 

Space for Gratitude, Affirmations, Sobersistas unique MLT prompt and much more! 

Beautifully designed to inspire you during your sober month.