Why I’m not here to help you give up alcohol

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I know if you’ve been around Sobersistas for a while it might seem that the statement above is a bit surprising. The business is called ‘SOBERsistas’ after all.

Yes, if you came here to give up alcohol then then are lots of resources and support available to you to help you achieve that.

BUT

Bigger Vision

I am not just here to help you give up alcohol. My true mission is to help you discover, create and live the life you deserve – and I want you to stop drinking as part of the bigger vision I have for you.

As long as you continue to drink, you are draining yourself of energy and focus. You are not dealing with the issues you have and you are not allow yourself to create a vision of how life can really be. The physical, mental and emotional effects of alcohol are simply getting in your way.

And if you’re not giving up drinking to create a better life for yourself – what on earth are you doing it for? Once you’ve given up, what then?

A Failure

I’ve lost count of the women who I’ve seen who have successfully given up alcohol for months at a time, only to start drinking again and disappear from the group. They then embark on months of self-sabotage and self-flagellation in search of the proof that confirms what they always thought they were – a failure.

The reason this happens is usually always the same. They never did anything to take advantage of their sobriety to change their lives for the better. They didn’t fill the void that drinking left – sometimes that can be as much as 35 hours a week spent on drinking! They didn’t develop strategies to deal with the reasons they were drinking too much in the first place.

Does this sound familiar? Have you been in this situation more than once?

When you drink to deal with an unhappy relationship, an unfulfilling job that is stifling your natural talents or any one of the other million possible reasons, if you don’t have a plan to deal with these when you stop, they will still be there waiting for you and because they are a source of stress, you are more likely to go back to your default coping mechanism of opening a bottle of wine.

If you don’t tack these issues while your mind and soul are clear of alcohol then you will start drinking again because that is your default way of coping with that issue. If you don’t learn new strategies then we all revert to what we know when we think we don’t have any other options.

But there are other options.

Getting Sober is Easy

I know that this might cause some arguments and disagreement but getting sober is easy. It’s actually living with the consequences of knowing you want to stop and not stopping that is really hard. The moment you decide that alcohol is a problem in your life then you put yourself in a state of wanting and not wanting at the same time. Both can’t win so you end up torturing yourself as a failure when all you need to do is allow your desire for sobriety win the fight.

Netflix and Chardonnay

If your relationship is being held together with Netflix and Chardonnay then yes, it can be scary to contemplate breaking up. The problem with this way of thinking is that it’s very black and white and driven by the negativity that alcohol infuses in your. It’s entirely possible that your relationship could recover and thrive – or you could break up, feel good about it and end up living the life of your dreams.

Your Best Self

If you feel like your employer can’t see your talents and are frustrated that they are going to waste – you’re right. Alcohol causes anxiety and depression and a lack of focus, so no employer is going to see the best in you when you never present your best self to them.

Make the Decision

My job as a coach is not to help you give up alcohol. You could very easily stop right now without any help at all. You just need to make the decision.
What if, in making that decision, you became the version of yourself that deep down you know you’re supposed to be? What if you let go of everything in your life that isn’t serving you, including alcohol, and started creating the life that you know you deserve? What if you started chasing those dreams that you’ve harboured for so long because – why not? And why not you?
Coaching shows you how that is possible and reminds you of just how brilliant you are, to show you the wonderful things that you already know you can achieve in your sober life. I can give you the tools and the alternative options. Together we will discover the vision of the life you want to live and create the roadmap for achieving it.

This Half-Life

You are not meant to spend your life soaked in alcohol, living this half-life. You are meant to thrive, shine, make a positive contribution to society and bring some much needed balance back into your life, community and the world.
This quote from A Course in Miracles by Marianne Williamson inspires me every time I read it. I have discovered how I shine and when I am coaching I can always see that dulled light that is in you. Together we can work out how to help you bring your light to the world.

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

I am not here to help you give up alcohol. I am here to help you live the life you truly deserve.

Find out more about working with me on a one to one basis:  https://sobersistas.co.uk/4-week-coaching-programme/

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Much love always, Jules xxx